October 29, 2015

An interesting conversation

I wasn't going to blog today, however I had such an interesting conversation last evening,  and have changed my mind.  

Let's call my friend "Sir J" and I will refer to myself as "Lady D".  We went to college together some fifty years ago (Yikes!) and have remained close friends ever since.  Sir J is a published writer.  His creative talents are many. 

After a couple of hours on the phone, we hung up.  We talked about spending some time together and going back to our old college for a day,  just to remember.  We boarded there.  It was co-ed.  Ahead of it's time for those years in Canada.  Alone once again, I began to think and wrote him this letter.
Title:  "OK, here's whats going to happen ..." 

"Sir J … when I get back and get settled — I am going to fly in and stay with you for a few days.  I have enough points.  You in turn are going to look after my every need because I don’t have a dime to my name.  In turn, I will bring you a painting of your choice from what is left in inventory. 

We are going to have FUN.  We are going to talk about old times.  We are going to talk philosophy.  We are going to talk about writing and art and about being happy within ourselves.  We are going to go to College and spend a day …. we are going to …… what do you want to do????"

Sir J's response:

When you want to do this, you must tell me...

And I will be ready. I would love! to do this!

And you shall meet my children! And we will, if you wish… do whatever we want to do… and you can stay as long as you like.

Let us do this!

Your every need will be met.

How many needs do you have?
HA! HA!  The "How many needs do you have?" got to me.  This was my response. 
"Not sexual needs.  (although .... hmmmm)  I require intelligent conversation of considerable depth, good food eaten in incredible company, gracious surroundings, a comfortable chair.  I require laughter, interesting entertainment, a drive in the country .. pausing along the way for a very strong coffee, a lovely view to clear my head, great music.  I need you to read me a story.  I need to hear what is important to you and what you want to accomplish.  I need to hear your values, what you love about yourself, and which areas you would like to see growth. I need to see the very depth of your soul.  I need to hear your version of why you have been given the gift of time on earth, and what you still want to accomplish for YOU... not for anyone else.  I need to hear what gifts you wish to give yourself.  I need to hear your pain and your joy.  I need to hear what you have learned from your success and your mistakes.  I need to hear what direction you are headed in .. What your passions are and why.  there's more ...  
For my part, I need to bare my soul, to tell you my deepest secrets.  I need you to listen with no judgement. I need long walks by the river.  I need the comfortable silence that exists between us (from time to time).  Oh wait ... there's more.  We will discuss this later, you are probably on overwhelm.   ..... xo Lady D.  PS:  I require excellent booze.  lol" 
We've decided to make this a priority.  Both looking forward to it with fond anticipation. Many things have to occur before this takes place ... however, take place it will. 
Thanks for dropping by today.  Your company is always appreciated.  Enjoy the moment ... it's the only one we've got.
“A woman or man of value doesn’t love you because of what he or she wants you to be or do for them. He or she loves you because your combined souls understand one another, complements each other, and make sense above any other person in this world. You each share a part of their soul's mirror and see each other’s light reflected in it clearly. You can easily speak from the heart and feel safe doing so. Both of you have been traveling a parallel road your entire life. Without each other's presence, you feel like an old friend or family member was lost. It bothers you, not because you have given it too much meaning, but because God did. This is the type of person you don't have to fight for because you can't get rid of them and your heart doesn't want them to leave anyways.”
~ Shannon L. Alder


  1. I LOVE your post today Donna. Sounds like you had a great conversation, and I hope very much that you will write and tell us all about it when you two do meet up one of these fine days. It's good to have friends from the past who are always present in our lives, even if we don't often see them or are long times apart. Have a lovely day, and may all of your good dreams come true Hugs, Valerie

  2. Lovely post, it really made me think and I think....you need me to come with you! Sounds a spiffing trip so count me in! Cathryn X

  3. This is so great to have such a great friend like this and something so wonderful to look forward to.

  4. You have made some great friends over the years so I know you will enjoy time with this very special Mr. J.
    If I recall correctly you are off to Canada for a couple of weeks. I do hope you can make medical arrangements to see a doctor while you are there. Have a safe trip and enjoy each day.
    Love hugs,

  5. Oh wow - I think you want what a lot of us want. Nurturing companionship without judgement and plenty of intellectual stimulation!
    Dear Hear - I had surgery the last of October and all has not gone well. I still have pain and get sick to my stomach. I do get tired very easily. Our whole family will be here next week for Thanksgiving so I better get me some more energy by then!
    Sandy xx